I Love You to Wellness

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Dr. Gary Chapman is the author of “The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts.” This book incorporates biblical principles with human behavior and cultural implications, to articulate and explain the five common ways in which humans love one another. The five love languages are: words of affirmation, quality time, physical touch, acts of service, and receiving gifts. Dr. Chapman has written immensely on this topic, and I’ll let his work speak for itself should you choose to explore it. Love is relevant to me because I love, love.

As I experience more revolutions around the sun and unpack various experiences, I am also uncovering my personal relationship with love. God is love. My primary love language is quality time. I love you to wellness means to me that there are things that need healing, that love is just what the doctor ordered. Love can be the best medicine. I have grown familiar with God’s ability to heal. When my failures, shortcomings, and things I have deep regret for flash in my mind, I am learning to love to wellness.

A way you can heal is to love. And a way you can love is to love others. Others are people that you have some degree of separation from. They aren’t your family or share a similarly related or adjacent bond, you don’t cohabit any relatively close space, and or you come from two different walks of life. Loving those people is a way you can allow yourself to be healed. Within the Christian framework this is the mind of Christ, humbling yourself to help others.

This can allow healing to burst forth in your life because love, once you get passed the emotion of it, is an action. You demonstrate love. One of the ways you can demonstrate love is by deploying the love languages. On Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs, love and belonging is the third level of the pyramid after physiological needs, and safety needs. When you demonstrate love not only do you meet the need of someone, but you also put yourself in the position to have a need of yours met.

If objectively, love can bring healing to a person’s life, that means it can bring healing into your life. Love on what you need healing in. Love on it outwardly. My past is not something I want to put on a billboard. It’s not horrible, but it’s just bad enough to give me agita. My present is going in a better direction and my future looks bright. Self-love is important but extending that love to others is potent. I love you to wellness and hope you extend that love to others.